There are many reasons as to why a child’s biological parents may no longer be together. It may be because of death, separation or even divorce. Today we are looking at the last two scenarios. Now we all know that divorce and separation is rampant in our society today. It’s not something to be proud of. No one gets married or into a relationship with expectations that it will one day come to an end. In fact during the initial period of any relationship things are always rosy, we all dream of a life together forever and believe that nothing or no one will ever come between us. Unfortunately this happy ending does not come true for all of us. And as much as we know divorce is wrong and undesirable, we cannot trivialize the complexities of marriage. So many factors are usually at play before a couple separates. It could be domestic abuse, it could be infidelity, or any number of things. And two people who once loved each other deeply can now no longer be together. But what do you do when you are divorced or separated yet you had children or a child together? [Read more…]
A blended family is a family consisting of a couple and child/children from previous relationships. Most times we just call them step-families. Now, it is no secret that step families are a hot bed of friction. This however does not mean that the other kinds of families do not experience friction – they do. The structure of the step-family and the complex family relations that exists in step-families however makes them susceptible to friction and conflict. This makes it impossible to move forward especially if they are not resolved. Most couples and children in step families are stuck in a cycle of friction and conflict and are on the verge of giving up.
It is said prevention is better that cure. In this case it is possible to reduce friction and conflicts in our step-families by establishing a family environment that is based on respect, appreciation, consideration, courtesy, dignity, esteem, honor & regard. Generally most conflicts in our step family units are because a member is feeling disrespected or unappreciated. This of course, causes them to talk/act/behave in a way that will cause friction in the family. If you are in a blended family, here is how to minimize friction in your step family. [Read more…]