Women with more than one child generally agree that they were far more anxious the first time they had a baby than they were with subsequent children. There are things that a first-time mother struggles with that mothers with more children may not. It’s not necessarily that motherhood gets easier but rather that after having two or more children, you become surer of yourself as a mother. As with everything else, experience makes things easier. In this way having a child for the first time is unique in its challenges and joys. [Read more…]
The period when maternity leave ends and you are going back to work is usually filled with a lot of anxiety. You’ve been home with baby all this time, you were probably personally in charge of everything in the life of your child, from feeding to play time. And now you have to relinquish some of that control to someone else, perhaps a nanny, because you will be at work for most of the day.
Many mothers are filled with What Ifs. What if the house help forgets to feed the baby? What if my sister drops the baby? What if the baby is kidnapped? What if by leaving the baby I’m unknowingly affecting their emotional development? What about breastfeeding?The fears range from the irrational to the most sensible. Some women feel guilty for leaving their baby and going back to work. Others feel guilty for being eager to go back to their jobs. Many can barely concentrate at work and end up calling home to check on things every hour. It’s easy during that period to visualize the worst things that can happen and make the experience far more stressful than it must be. Thankfully, there are ways to counter this and help yourself adjust to being away from your baby. [Read more…]
A friend of mine was once fretting over her weight. She had been living her best life for a while and had gained some and was now going through that crisis that almost every woman goes through when she realizes suddenly that some of her clothes can no longer fit. Her mother, who was around, happened to overhear our conversation and she laughed, saying that we were stressed now about our bodies when these same bodies are the ones we will want in ten years.
Her comment totally threw us off. First, because we didn’t know she had been listening, or that she would weigh in. Second because, well, it’s true, isn’t it? You struggle with how you look now and then in three years you look back and wish you looked the way you did. Or even if you don’t, now that you look the way you wanted to, you find that there are still parts of you that you would change if you could. [Read more…]