You’ve been dating for a while now. You started out happy and optimistic. You believed you two would stick it out, the two of you against the world. But it has not been working out. There are red flags everywhere, some really big. You’re tired of having the same fight over and over. You are not enthusiastic about the future. But you can’t bring yourself to leave. In the last two posts we’ve talked about good reasons to stay in a relationship and bad reasons to leave a relationship. Today we take a different direction and see terrible reasons to stay in a relationship.
I know. I know. Breaking up is such a big step. It’s not something you rush into. But if you’ve been having these thoughts for a couple of months, we need to talk. Here are terrible reasons to stay in a relationship.
I don’t want to be alone: I strongly believe loneliness is a state of mind. You can be lonely even in a crowd of people. To be honest, the times I was the loneliest I was in a relationship. Ironic. Right? Well it happens. What you need to do is get comfortable being alone without necessarily getting lonely. Force yourself to have some “me time” and learn to love your own company. Get rid of the idea that if you are alone you can’t enjoy yourself. Find those hobbies you used to love before this relationship. Here’s the thing, a year or two ago you didn’t even know this person and you were just fine. [Read more…]