When I hit 20 years I was panting out of breath from the peer pressure of teenage hood. I was honored to go to one of the best schools in the country – Alliance Girls. I brushed shoulders with the high and mighty, girls who came from serious money and being from a poor family and on the list of sponsored students didn’t make life for me easy. My mother visited me once a year, I didn’t go for half term and my shopping list was always painfully short. And so began my journey of learning how to be happy with who I am. [Read more…]
In case you missed part 1, here it is: To have and to hold: When NOT to get married -Part 1
Now, the disclaimers from Part1 still apply..Here they are:
Disclaimer 1: The points here are written with ladies in mind because it’s hard to keep saying he/she. Gentlemen, please don’t sweat it Kindly read on and see how it applies to you.
Disclaimer 2: I want to say categorically that you cannot change someone. Change is from within – they only change when and because they want to! The way he treats you now is most likely how he will treat when you are married so quit making excuses for him and laying down strategies on how to make him a better person. [Read more…]
Till death do us part is a LONG time to be with someone. This is not one of those things you just jump into. It is a decision you need to think about long and hard. Let me say here and now that you cannot be 100% sure that you have made the right decision-you will have doubts in the course of your life. You will sometimes wonder- what if I hadn’t taken this path? However, preparing well now will help you defend your decision to yourself in the future.
Just like choosing a career path (or any other major decision), we look at all the information we have, we seek help and opinions from people we count on, we pray and then we take a leap of faith and make our decision.
Making an informed choice will definitely keep you grounded especially when (not if) the storms come and it will keep you from killing someone 🙂 [Read more…]