Yesterday I had a very interesting chat with my mum. Age has refined me in very many ways. One of them is the way I relate with mum. My mother is your typical Nyeri woman, tough. Yes, I’m from Nyeri and regardless of what the media says, I don’t beat my husband 🙂 Back to my point – discipline was not a foreign word in our house. We grew up hearing “As long as you are under my roof, …… is unacceptable” Looking back, I know this strictness was necessary because as a teenager you think you know it all.
When you have been married 1 year, you expect the sun to shine a little brighter, the moon to be bigger – OK that’s too much. You expect the universe to take note of your huge achievement. But the universe has a cruel sense of humor. It goes on like nothing happened. So you pat yourself on the back and tell yourself you’re still special..
I know all you who have been married for much longer are wondering what I’m going on about. I salute those who’ve done 7, 10 even 20 years. When I grow up I want to be you 🙂
Today a friend of mine from campus dropped me an email. She shared that she is getting married soon and so they’ve began planning for the wedding. She mentioned that her fiancée is preparing to visit her parents for dowry ceremonies later in the year. She went on to ask me for any pointers I could share on the dowry ceremonies issue.
Someone asked me for advice! I was so thrilled I did many cartwheels (in my head) in celebration 🙂 I know I write about marriage and relationships all the time but this was new. It is one thing to give your unsolicited opinions to an audience and it is another thing all together to be asked for advice. When someone asks you for advice, they are telling you that your opinion matters. I have to say my self-esteem got a serious boost today. I almost changed my walking style 🙂