Today’s guest post is from Mercy Kilili, one of my amazing readers. As a new mom, she shares with us her journey and the constant struggle of new moms and weight issues. Read on….
Recently, I attended a fellowship in the neighborhood. I had really looked forward to this event, where I could meet and catch up with old friends. A mom to a 1 year old, I spent some time changing diapers, feeding and playing with my son. And then some. I touched up on my makeup and headed to the hall. It was a lot of fun as we shared ideas, met friends and just chatted about marriage, motherhood and jobs.
Finally, in our small group, one lady friend walked up to me and bluntly said ‘Hey, I don’t like what I see. You need to get rid of this’, signaling at my body, from head to toe. I felt terrible – people can be so hurtful. I couldn’t believe her guts! Tears were welling up in my eyes and a huge lump stuck in my throat. Mercilessly, she went on and on about how I needed to get back my slim body before pregnancy. Now, I am not the type to fight for my rights, so I tried to gain composure and ignore the comment. However, this comment had been loud enough for the other ladies to hear and they came and joined us.
We were suddenly immersed in chitchat about body changes in marriage. Baby weight, pot belly, sit-ups etc etc became our all-too-familiar story. In this chit-chat, I realized that weight really matters to women. The size of our stomachs, our hips, our busts, our behinds etc. are the struggle of many a women. Before we knew it, we were roaring with laughter at the issues we women go through. Soon, we had to say goodbye and leave. [Read more…]