My son just turned 5 months and boy has it been a roller-coaster of emotions. Children don’t gently disrupt your calendar they turn your entire life upside down. And there’s no middle ground either – you are either completely worried and overwhelmed or so happy and in love you could burst. There is no in-between. You move from one emotion to the other so fast it sometimes makes you spin. Now, I know I have only been doing this for 5 months so I don’t know so much but there’s something that has been bothering me for a while. There is too much mom shaming and you know what ticks me off the most? It comes from other moms!
Raising a child comes with a lot of self -doubt. I especially struggled with this when my baby was below 3 months. I just didn’t know if what I was doing was the right thing. I constantly worried that I was doing it wrong and my baby would be scarred for life. I don’t struggle with this too much now but it still happens when I want to make a relatively major decision about the baby. What makes this increasingly hard is the looks and words of disapproval other moms give you. There is a weird competition and general “I am a better mom than you” attitude that comes from most moms – probably me included. We don’t see it but sometimes as we narrate how we raise our kids that nasty tone and attitude shows up. And especially if the other person chooses to parent differently. And that’s what this post is about. Dear mom, I am here to tell you to love your lane – choose how you want to parent and love it regardless of other people’s opinions. [Read more…]