I have noticed a worrying trend among married people and it’s been bothering me for days. On the outside our marriages look perfect and amazing but on the inside we are fighting and unhappy. We go to church and events together, we come in holding hands and sit next to each other. We laugh and chat with people in pubic and then we get home and sleep in separate rooms. We write beautiful things about our spouse on social media on anniversaries and Valentines but when we get home no one is speaking to the other. Behind closed doors we are having major conflicts but we refuse to admit we need help.
I have encountered many couples going through this. They look amazing until you take a closer look. Haven’t you heard that so and so are getting a divorce and thought “wait, what? I didn’t even know they were having problems. They looked so happy.” Well, clearly they weren’t that happy. So, what is really going on? We are covering the sins of our partners thinking it is wise when in reality it is doing more harm than good. Let me explain. I have had wives write to me and share how their man is cheating, messing up family money or even physically abusing them. I also know men whose wives have been a constant thorn in the flesh. Each says they have tried everything with no change. Yet they continue to look perfect and no one knows what is really going on. So, what do you do when your partner has a big problem and refuses to change? That is a question I have been asked a lot the last couple of months. My answer? Expose them. Sounds radical? I know! But I have my reasons. Hear me out. [Read more…]