A friend of mine has been looking for a job for a while. You know how uniquely horrifying the experience of tarmacking can be. Especially when you’re at age where everybody is piling pressure on you to…well, advance. Get married. Have kids. Have a car and live in a nice neighbourhood. Your peers are there but you are stuck here looking for work. That kind of thing has every ability to convince a person that they are less than what we are. For many of us, our worth is directly tied to what we can do. So my friend is feeling the way a normal human being would feel after facing that much rejection. His sense of self worth was diminished.
I don’t know a single person who has never struggled with their self-esteem. Maybe they exist, I don’t know. People who have never compared themselves to others around them and found themselves lacking. People who have never needed someone else to make them feel enough. People who were born with the innate ability to be fully aware at all times of their awesomeness. Maybe they exist. I just haven’t met any. [Read more…]